PEOPLE DONT LIKE YOU

A friend asked me this morning... "Dude, how do you deal with people not liking you?"

I laughed outloud…

Not because it isn't real... but because I know it is real, I heard about it this weekend.

I was with some friends from the town I grew up in... and they all had stories. People asking them why they hang around me. People saying things. Friends having to defend me to other people.

All I could think was... that's actually beautiful.

Because every person I know who is DOING something in this world... has a pile of people who don't like them.

In one of my favorite books, “The Travelers Gift” Abe Lincoln says...

"The only sure way to avoid criticism is to do nothing and be nothing."

Hate is a sign you're doing something in this life, while the other people are just watching…

But here's my actual answer to the question…

The real question is...

Do YOU know you're a good person?

Not... do other people think you're good.

Do YOU know it.

Because trying to get other people to believe you're good is a game you can't win.

It will never be done.

The greatest man to ever live got nailed to a cross because He couldn't convince everyone he was good... so what chance do any of us have?

None.

Its an impossible game, so STOP PLAYING it.

The thing I learned from my coach Mark... is that I KNOW MY intentions.

I know I want to help people. I know I want the people around me to win. I know I show up and do the work and own it when I mess up and make it right when I can. I am not perfect and NOBODY is… but I know my intent.

Nobody can take that from me.

When YOU know who you are... other people stop having power over you.

That's it.

THE DAILY GAIN

Write it down. One sentence. "I know I'm a good person because ___."

This is just for you…

If you can finish that sentence without flinching... you're already free.

Stay in the fire and never stop progressing. — Braven Grant